Dear graduates of eighth grade, high school or college …
Sadly, you have faced the unique position of being unable to personally participate in graduation activities and ceremonies most of us have attended. I wish the world was not encased in germs and viruses and crippled by quarantines, but unfortunately these are the times in which we live.
Diane Denk
How can you guarantee your future has meaning and gives you satisfaction? It all comes down to four key ideas: Care, challenge, change and coping.
Care – In the years ahead, make sure you realize others may not have the good life that you do. Reach out to other folks to understand their struggles and offer assistance. Recognize that just because you were dealt a good hand does not mean that they were. Or perhaps you are the one who needs the care. Never ever be shy about asking for help. Don’t go it alone when there are so many people who truly want you to succeed.
Challenge – Life won’t always be smooth and predictable. It may offer some incredible roller coaster of chaos and mayhem. That does not mean you aren’t up to the tasks ahead. Who among us would have believed we would be living indoors surrounded by only family, wearing masks, attending Zoom conferences, and learning online? But you did it and continue to do it. You are resourceful and strong and have learned so much about yourself the last few months.
Change – This applies not just to what you have already encountered but to what you will face in the years ahead. Will you always get everything correct the first time around? No. But you have the power to reinvent yourself, make new choices, and determine what’s better for you. You might select a class, sport, area of interest, or even a major or profession that does not fit you. However, don’t be afraid to explore other options that are a better fit and give you satisfaction and joy. Life is a long road…don’t be afraid to make changes and revisions several times. It’s OK as long as you keep moving and find fulfillment.
Coping – It’s one of life’s brutal lessons that everything isn’t puppies and pie. Sometimes we must live and work with folks who don’t thrill us. We may experience teachers and leaders who are not our heroes. You may find co-workers, bosses, colleagues, spouses, and even your own children who throw up hurdles you must cross. It’s critical to learn to go along to get along. Look deeply for that commonality that makes you see the worth in others that helps you cope.
These concepts won’t always be the answer to what troubles you. But ask yourself, 1.) How can I care more? 2.) What challenge am I and others facing? 3.) How and what can I change to make the situation better? 4.) Is there a way I could improve my coping skills so it’s win-win for everyone?
If you reflect on these areas, you will succeed. Best of luck and future endeavors to all graduates of 2020.
Diane M. Denk is representative for House District 9, Kennebunkport and parts of Kennebunk and Biddeford. She can be reached at Diane.Denk@legislature.maine.gov.
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